People don't understand that when they are arguing over something, they NEED TO keep their language unambiguous and clear to eliminate any possibility of doubt and misunderstanding. As it is, any language is not fully efficient in conveying the exact meanings. On top of that if you start using rhetoricals, sarcasms, taunts, it increases the ambiguity all-the-more. I mean, sometime person B won't get your sarcasm while you assume he is getting it. And so B's reply would seem more arrogant to you. Then again, there may come another sarcastic statement, or a rhetorical question, delaying the solution exponentially!
So here are some basic rules I believe should be followed when you are Arguing or Debating or Discussing a topic:
1) Remember that an argument has a solution / conclusion. The conclusion could be something that you commonly concur upon, or it may be identifying which on aspects your preference differs, or a combination. The common conclusion may or may not be in your favor but you should strive to work towards the true solution. In other words, drop your ego, and be honest & frank.
2) Try to keep the language down-to-earth. Be direct. And expect direct, sharp sentences. Because the truth can be bitter.
3) Get straight to the point without trash talk like above because it only increases tempers and delays the solution. Don't beat around the bush.
For example: Don't counter like this (like person B does):
A: I have no idea what you are talking about X-(
B: You know very well what I am talking about X-(
Instead do this:
A: I have no idea what you are talking about X-(
B: I am talking about how that day you ditched me and went to play basketball with Katrinn.
^^ Even though you think A knows what you are talking about, SAY IT so that further beating around the bush is avoided.
4) For some mature topics, you may need to use profane words like sex. Don't be prudish in an argument.
5) An argument/discussion/debate must be logical. Feelings and emotions can be considered within the logic.
6) At some point one may say "Pratyek goshtila karan astach asa nasta" i.e. "Not everything has a reason". I think everything does have a reason, but it may just be really hard to find or identify. It may be difficult to put into words or too lengthy. Or it may be something too obvious to realize. Take your time to reflect, and try to explain the reason.
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