We use swear words to express some quick anger / frustration like -
fuck!
shit!
"abe yaar"
Some people say that expressing in such a way is good. But I have been believing otherwise since my childhood. I know from childhood that using swear words to express some tiny frustration momentarily actually amplifies the frustration at least a little.
Here is a point to support it:
If you force a smile now on your face, you do feel slightly happy!
If you force your facial expression into that a sad, droopy face, you do feel sad
Hence, expression results in more of that emotion!
When you use an interjection like "shit!", or "abe yaar", "damn",... it increases that feeling
Instead, you should overcome the need to interject and continue being unperturbed. That keeps you more peaceful and lets you think with more clarity in the next moment.
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Extension to this topic -
While arguing with someone too, one can get annoyed, frustrated and either use swear words, or lose their calm. The above idea can be applied here to instead remain totally calm & unperturbed by the other person's comments.
When arguing with a friend / acquaintance, you can let go off the frustration / annoyance by thinking "this guy is an idiot, I'll not get too involved in this subject; his loss!" and continue being unperturbed.
But when arguing with a close person, you cannot overlook their potentially incorrect views because they matter to you.
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